From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!npois!cbosgd!nscs!rmas70!cly
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: For Singles Only
Article-I.D.: rmas70.226
Posted: Fri Nov  5 13:38:40 1982
Received: Sun Nov  7 01:27:54 1982

Billie, I feel much as you do about having events, groups,
whatever JUST for "real" singles. Unfortunately, there is a
gray area. Some technically single couples are more "married"
than some legally married ones. Where does one draw the line
and remain practical? The single group I'm involved with
in Columbus defines single as never married, widowed, divorced,
or separated. Living together is still considered single
as well as is married but living apart. Every so often this comes
up for discussion at our board meeting, but it has never
changed in 8 years. It comes down to an individual decision - 
are you single in your mind? If we discover that someone is
abusing our definition (married, intending to stay married, and
out for a thrill for instance), we ask them to leave. We have 
had very little trouble.
 
I think it is VERY important that single people have places to go
JUST for them. Providing such things takes absolutely nothing
away from couples since they are free to start couples-only
groups or everyone welcome groups.

When I first got married, I was asked to start such a group
by the church since so many marrieds had been feeling left out
of the single group. I did so. I discovered that very few
were REALLY interested - attendance was poor. I got a lot
of calls that went, "Great idea, Carl! We'll be there one
of these days!". 
 
I really missed the single group mostly for the friends I had
made there. Well, I'm back now, and loving it!