From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!npois!cbosgd!nscs!rmas70!trl
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: For Singles Only?
Article-I.D.: rmas70.227
Posted: Mon Nov  8 16:13:04 1982
Received: Tue Nov  9 05:57:40 1982

	This is a comment inspired by Carl and Billie's earlier comments
about "singles-only" events, newsgroups, etc.

	First, lets set the stage.  I am 23, male, and happily married.
My wife and I both have careers, different groups of friends/associates
(as well as many "common" friends), and we do not have any children.

	Second, to some extent I agree that "singles-only" events are a
good idea, (remember I was once single).  Many of the points both of you
mention are valid.

	Third, let me state our problem.  "Socially" we are neither
married or single.  We enjoy many aspects of the singles' social
lifestyle, but like and need our commitment to each other.  Most of our
closest friends are single and most of our time outside the job or home
is spent with singles.  We enjoy ourselves more when among singles, or
recent singles, than when among married people.  Most of the married
people *** we know *** really do lead a different lifesytle than
singles.  We have watched changes occur in many friends as they got
married.  Currently these changes are not for us, so we "mingle" with
singles.  We do not decide to socialize with singles only, it is just
that the things we like to do usually attract more single people than
married people.  So when you exclude us from your parties, events,
newsgroups and such, we, (and you), are going to miss a lot.

	If the idea of a event is to meet romantic/sexual partners then
the idea of a unattached-only guest list is fine.  If the idea is to
meet people, exchange ideas/problems/solutions, then do not exclude
married people.  We have many thoughts about life as a single person,
ideas that unmarried people may not have been exposed to. So please do
not force us out.


				Tom Lanning
				BTL at Columbus Ohio
				1-614-860-4153