From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!ihnp4!ihuxv!ihps3!ihuxn!jackieb
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Marriage Contracts?
Article-I.D.: ihuxn.178
Posted: Fri Nov 12 09:25:50 1982
Received: Mon Nov 15 03:39:55 1982

Before I get started, a brief background:
	female, divorced (8 years), 32, a son and a daughter.

I'm having a hard time trying to figure out how one would even ask the
person they say they love to sign any contract.  I for one do want to
remarry.  I lost alot in divorce and have rebuilt my own life.  I own
a new car and my own home, with no help from the ex.  I've got two great
kids, who are doing well in all areas of their lives.  I too feel I have
alot of material things to lose if a second marriage failed.  BUT . . .
before I enter into a second marriage, I have enough confidence in
myself to enter into only if I know we both want it to work.

When you love someone and (s)he loves you, you both share the same
wants, needs, desires, emotions.  Why go into feeling it's not going to
last?  When two people want the same thing and are both willing to work
at it, it will work.  I think what happens (at least in my case) is that
one or the other takes the other one for granted.  The relationship quits
growing.  

I've dated men who have from the beginning told me, this isn't going to
work, and they were right.  They had very negative attitudes and weren't
willing to give anything a chance.  So I guess what I'm saying is that
if you go into a marriage the same way. . .trouble.

No, I for one couldn't and wouldn't ask the man I love to sign anything.
And if he asked me to, well he asked to wrong woman to marry him.

				No Contract for Me,


				Jackie Barczak