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Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: marriage contract (possible repeat)
Article-I.D.: ihuxt.126
Posted: Mon Nov 15 20:56:21 1982
Received: Wed Nov 17 04:26:30 1982

It has thus far been an interesting discussion. After we got past the
stage of jumping down peoples throats for bringing in divergent 
opinions, some interesting things started showing up. 

Curiously enough, I haven't seen any articles from people who
had marriage contracts and got divorced. Could it be that they
don't get divorced. Actually I know thats not true, but I'd be interested
in hearing from these people. ?did the contract help, a lot, some,
none at all?

Personal second hand experience ( oxymoron?) has shown that contracts
don't always help. The problem was that the Original contract looked
good enough when the marriage started, but looked like a loophole
collection for the divorce. Fortunately the case I'm discussing ended
with only a minor amount of hate nastiness name calling and public humiliation.

Question: How well could these contracts hold up when really put to the test?
As far as I know there are probably no two states with the same laws on marriage,
Will a contract drawn up in one state be void in another?

My own highly biased view on the matter is that the contracts are probably a
good idea. Marriages should be based on some well thought out collective 
decisions, rather than on a mutual fondness.

Yes, I know that this is cold hearted and non-romantic. So is divorce.

>From what I've seen it's ( <- see! I got it right )
 reasonableness that hold a marriage together and
emotion (unreasonableness) that tears it apart. 

For myself I would find it very difficult to seriously consider
marrying a woman who thought it self, stupid, greedy or stupid
(take your pick) to calmly discuss our future. I'm a firm believer
in Mr. Murphy. If you just sit back and let things happen to you
then you deserve everything you get. On the other hand, if you
prepare for the worst the worst that can happen is that you will
not have prepared well enough.


partially different topic:

For those who debate both sides of the issue and other issues.
What is your normal response when presented with an argument you cannot
refute.
(not that this view was) pick from the following.
	A. YOU'RE WRONG AND THATS THAT.
	B. You're wrong because I don't want to agree with you.
	C. You're wrong because I don't Agree with you.
	D. I know your wrong, but I can't remember why.
	E. Let me check this out, you might be right.
	F. I'm not sure.
	G. Sounds good enough for me.

I don't really want responses I just want you to think about these.

For those who support The marriage contract idea. Have you ever been
accused of being TOO logical or TOO reasonable when you were arguing
with someone over an emotional issue. I get it from my sister all the 
time. Sister incidently is not into C.S. at all and cannot balance her
checkbook.


		ROTTEN NASTY AND HEARTLESS.

		B. E. Taylor BTL IH x6797