From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!ihnp4!ixn5c!inuxc!pur-ee!mj
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: Marriage as a contract - (nf)
Article-I.D.: pur-ee.685
Posted: Sun Nov 21 22:33:52 1982
Received: Mon Nov 22 03:55:19 1982

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pur-ee!mj    Nov 15 21:25:00 1982


	I'm afraid that exhibitionism on the net is contagious!


	I am intrigued by the different attitudes about FINANCIAL marriage
	contracts.  I really don't know what to make of this issue,
	but I have had some thoughts that I haven't seen around yet.

	pyuxjj!rlr's analogy between death and divorce was cute, but
	missed the mark. Whatever Rich may think, although divorce
	can often be as tragic as death (or conversely, as liberating),
	it is hardly as inevitable, and is OFTEN (not always) more preventable.

	Materialism is so pervasive in our culture that sometimes we overlook
  	it as a cause of social ills.  Americans see almost everything in terms
	of 'what's it gonna cost?', or 'what am I gonna get out of it?'.
	Now it seems that this principle even applies to marriage.

	I think it's purely a personal thing between two people whether
	or not they want a financial agreement before marriage. Money is
	not one of my larger priorities, and if I am ever divorced I will 
 	have spent all of my money on marriage counselling first, anyway 
	(preventability again). Therefore, I see no need to arm
	myself with legal financial weaponry. I also see no need to verbally
	torch people who do want this type of security - it's their
	marriages and their lives! If it makes you feel any better,
	tell yourself that you're letting them make their own mistakes.
	(Please note that I do **NOT** tell myself this)

      Mark A. Johnson       Purdue University       decvax!pur-ee!mj    
			     (317) 743-8443                                

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