From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!ihnp4!ixn5c!inuxc!pur-ee!mj
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: cooking etc. - (nf)
Article-I.D.: pur-ee.684
Posted: Sun Nov 21 22:32:54 1982
Received: Mon Nov 22 04:03:49 1982

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pur-ee!mj    Nov  8 19:56:00 1982

	I just wanted to put in my $0.02 worth about attractiveness.
I have noticed that a lot of people speak of attractiveness as if it 
were a measurable quantity, like height, weight, sex ( m or f, or
frequency, as you wish), etc.  I think this is a mistake. Personally,
it makes little difference to me if the woman I am attracted to is
'considered' beautiful by other people... After all, whose relationship is
it?  My best friend and I are constantly at odds about a third of the
women we meet; it's that personal a thing!

	I have also noted that attractiveness is relatively relative
(hmm...). This summer I had the unfortunate experience of getting
emotionally hung up on one of my best friends, but I was too scared
and shy to tell her about it.  She is not stunning, but I noticed
that the more attached to her I became, the more attractive she looked.
That only made me more apprehensive, but, hey, we all have
our little problems. o.o
                     \_/
	Finally, I'd like to repeat something a friend of mine said
lately while I was verbally thrashing myself. She
said, "Do you think attractiveness makes that much of a difference?
Look at the group of all married people, and those who are single.
Can you honestly say one group is more attractive than the other?"
I see what she means.  Of course, I'm not sure that the validity
of her statements may not depend on what you're looking for in a
relationship. Good looks are probably an asset when looking for a one-night
stand, but I am beginning to get the idea that the main difference is internal.

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