From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!ihnp4!ihldt!ll1!otuxa!lsk
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Ramblings about MOTOS friends, with a WARNING
Article-I.D.: otuxa.152
Posted: Tue Nov 23 07:35:28 1982
Received: Wed Nov 24 04:52:19 1982

WARNING: No response is expected; no follow up is expected; nothing
dramatic is revealed; if one voyeur gets some insight from this, I shall
be happy.


It seems I have two female friends, I shall call them L & S.
I met them at about the same time, I dated them both for a while.

In the case of 'L' , I broke things up because there was "nothing
there" for me.  I still see her and we go out and do all sorts of
neat things and dull ordinary things.  Every once in a while I ask
myself if I should try dating her again. And the answer is always no,
absolutely no inclination to do so. Yet she is charming, intelligent,
and not unattractive.

On the other had, 'S' broke up with me. We still managed to be good
friends. I still see her and we go out and do all sorts of neat things
and dull ordinary things, too.  EVERY time I am with her I FERVENTLY
pray a miracle will happen and she will see the error of her ways and
demand we have an immediate and passionate love affair.  Of course,
it never happens. And even knowing it will never happen, I am always
vaguely disappointed at the end of the evening. (I wonder if she can
sense this somehow? I suspect yes. I suspect she derives some pleasure
from this, too).

So, the bottom line, 'L' turns me off; 'S' turns me on.

'L' probably would like me to ask her out on a real date and I can't.
'S' will probably never ask us to resume our relationship and it drives me nuts.

Life is a real joke sometimes, eh?

Larry S. Kaufman
Western Electric
Network Software Center
Dept 1225
Lisle, Illinois 60532