From: utzoo!decvax!cca!hplabs!hao!woods@sri-unix
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: happy hunting grounds
Article-I.D.: hao.350
Posted: Mon Nov 22 14:56:55 1982
Received: Wed Nov 24 05:19:59 1982
References: unc.4289

   I am the type of person who doesn't have any of the "traditionally 
attractive" qualities, such as a gorgeous body or really dynamic personality
or outrageous spontaneous wit, or even lots of self-confidence. Therefore I
find that the "usual" places people mention (school classes, bars, social
events, grocery stores, etc.) do not produce very much for me in the way of
social contacts. Relationships for me take time to develop, and so I would
have to say that next door neighbors have been by far and away my best
source of friendly/seual relationships with women. This is due to the fact
that *without going out of my normal routine*, I am placed into repeated
contact with these people, giving them time to learn to appreciate my "less
obvious" good qualities (such as intelligence and sensitivity).
   I can hear someone saying that a work environment provides the same sort
of interaction, but there are 2 major problems with meeting people at work, and
they are: 1) Neighbors tend to be much closer to me in lifestyle than people
I meet at work; and 2) at work there are always things that have to be done,
and hence take up your attention. Someone is likely to be a lot less receptive
to deliberate or unconsious social overtures when she is thinking about the
report she has to have out by this afternoon than if she is thinking about
what good movies are on TV tonight. 
   Note that of course this is only a general rule. The best lady friend I ever
had (that I still see occasionally) I met one night at a party, however this
is the exception (for me) rather than the rule.

                        GREG
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