From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!duke!unc!wm Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Happy Hunting Results Article-I.D.: unc.4321 Posted: Sat Nov 27 11:36:19 1982 Received: Sun Nov 28 03:30:02 1982 Here is a summary of the responses to my request for people's favorite places to meet persons of the appropriate sex. The names have been deleted for no specific reason. -------------------------------------------------------- 1) Universities 2) Theatre groups (I do sound reinforcement occasionally) Nowhere else, to date, have I ever met someone interesting who was single and willing to deal with a non-competitive person. --------------- All my significant relationships (including current marriage) were with people met at school. The most recent, however, got serious two years after she left school (and I was still in). --------------- Yup, a university is the place. I met my wife in college. --------------- I'll agree with you that universities are good places to meet members of the opposite sex.......in fact, you may not believe this, but I met the girl I'm currently dating in the terminal room.....she asked me a question about an editor..... --------------- Well, the only place I ever was when I was looking to meet women was a University, so I can't compare it with anything. However, I will say that my involvement in music (both vocal and instrumental) got me about 60% of my dates. I suspect that anyone who has a serious interest in any activity that attracts both sexes would do well to pursue that activity, if he or she wants to have friends and lovers. ----------------- The last person I was involved with... well, let's say 'involved over'... I met at work, and we lived in the same apartment complex. We are both cooperative education students (she's in CS, I'm in EE), and that's how we met. That's a pretty specialized circumstance, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that a person that I'm around every day, and with who(m) {always did hate that word} I share common interests, is the best FOR ME. On the other hand, Cupid really hit me between the eyes this summer, and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Well, maybe not my second-worst, anyway. -------------- Let's see...of recent lovers, 1 at square dancing, 1 was best friend of another lover (so far it's working...), 1 was a member of the Suicide Club (a local group of outrageousfolk out here in SF -- now defunct), several were jugglers (met in Golden Gate Park where local jugglers gather to practice together every Sunday), 1 at a hot-tub club, several thru long- standing male friends (our tastes are similar, and we tend to "trade" lovers, or pass good people on to each other when it's appropriate -- after 10 years we're the best of friends and have many common friends and lovers). Make that 3 at square dancing. One wandering around on Venice Beach, but that was only a 1-nite stand. That's enough ideas for now. (By the way, "recent" has expanded to fill about 2 years.) PS: Yes, I would try all of the above places if I was "looking". Note that mostly what I am looking for is good people and a good time, not a prelude to marriage. Best were square dancing (people who show up like a lot of physical contact and physical activity with the opposite sex, and are usually interesting/active people) and juggling (here it was more the mental contact and sharing; it's hard to pass juggling clubs well with someone and not feel some kind of sharing and commonality ---- that's badly said; let me try again (no editor in "r-"): the degree of coordination and cooperation required in passing juggling objects makes the two or more people involved in the endeavour feel closer for it. And surprisingly many good jugglers are women. --------------- The last time I met someone with whom a lasting relationship developed, we were introduced by a computer-operated dating service! I think we were both trying it out because it was something new, but nevertheless, it was helpful to both of us. Now I'll probably reveal my age. We were introduced in 1966 by Operation Match, Inc. (I think it was at MIT, and the first commercially successful such enterprise.) The CPU was an IBM 7090! We were married in 1969. ------------- I think the best way to meet people is via small groups that are assembled for some other purpose (like a class, a singing group, a church group[?]). In that way, you can initiate communication without having to make it for the sole purpose of starting something. It also gives you a basis for something to talk about. ------------- My favourite way is to take a course in something i'm interested in. That has actually never worked, though! The most effective way seems to be at work or in some other group. I gone with several men whom i met in a theatre group. The fellow i'm seeing now, i met when i was an undergrad & didn't notice (as a MOTS) till 8 years later! I guess, just having an active social life causes you to meet suitable people. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Thanks to all who responded. How many people are going to take up juggling because of this? Wm Leler - UNC Chapel Hill