From: utzoo!watmath!bstempleton
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: People who are looking for love
Article-I.D.: watmath.4129
Posted: Wed Dec 22 00:54:15 1982
Received: Wed Dec 22 03:08:14 1982

Of late I have come to the conclusion that active looking for a relationship
is a bad idea.  Recent discussion of going out with people on the rebound brings
this to mind.   The following points are worth considering:

1) I think that when a person gets involved with another, they often want to
convince themselves that they have achieved something - ie. gotten somebody
special that not just anybody could get.  Although it is not a hard and fast
rule, a person "looking for love" would be considered "easy" compared to
one who is not.  (Note here that I am talking about how the person would
be viewed, not who they really are.)   The problem is that a person looking
for a relationship can give the impression that it is a relationship they
want, and not the particular person.

2) When on the lookout, you tend even more than normal to consider each
MOTOS you meet as a possible lover.  This can be a turn-off to some people,
but it can also make you consider the wrong aspects of the person so that you
accept or reject them for the wrong reasons.  After all, your glands are
doing a lot of the thinking here.

3) You give an entirely different impression of yourself when you are looking
for a relationship than not.

I'd be intersted in comments from females in particular about what they
think about this.  Is a man "On the make" a turn-off?
Is finding out that the man is lonely something you do or don't want to hear?