From: utzoo!decvax!ucbvax!CAD:tektronix:tekid!barbaral
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: re turn offs to women
Article-I.D.: tekid.685
Posted: Thu Dec 23 08:43:09 1982
Received: Fri Dec 24 07:13:00 1982

I can't stand men who are on the make.  When one shows interest in me, it
feels like he's doing it just for an ego trip, or so he can brag to the
guys later.  Most of my female friends feel the same way I do, though there
are some who like this type of man.  They enjoy playing the female counter-
part of this role...flirting, teasing, etc., which I don't care for.

I don't mind knowing a man is lonely...let's face it, who doesn't get lonely
once and a while?  What does turn me off is a feeling of dependency, des-
paration.  In this case, I feel like the guy will be happy with anything
female, and I don't feel like he's interested in my because I'm special to
him.  He almost seems like a dog, who will go to any stranger for attention.
Another turn off to me is someone who's into a self pity trip.  I enjoy
talking to my friends, both male and female, about their problems, but
only if they take responsibility for them.  I don't like talking to people
who continually feel sorry for themselves and can't stop talking about
how they ended up with the worse lot in life.
 
For myself, I've found that my most serious relationships have all started
when I was feeling good about myself.  When I had the attitude that I
was going to go out and have fun, man or no man.  That my happiness
wasn't going to depend on if I met Mr. Right that evening.  I'd take
classes that interested me, went places with friends (sometimes all female),
and just went about having a fun time with life.  And lo and behold, these
are the times when I've met someone I really liked.