From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhtsa!alice!npoiv!npois!houxm!houxz!ihnp4!ihuxr!mindy
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: RE: What good is net.singles??
Article-I.D.: ihuxr.379
Posted: Thu Mar 31 15:54:11 1983
Received: Fri Apr  1 03:04:59 1983

C. J. Holzwarth said we all sound as tho we wish we
were married instead of single. For those of us who have
never been married this is often probably true. ("The grass
is always greener...) We don't have any bitter aftertaste
of an unhappy marriage and may, therefore, still be rather
idealistic. Hopefully, we have learned to also mix a sufficient amount
of reality in our outlook on relationships and marriage.

He also asked why people consider living alone to be synonymous
with being lonely. It doesn't have to be. Personally, I find more
emotional satisfaction from a group of close friends than from
one individual. No ONE person can meet all of our emotional needs.
It isn't fair to expect them to.

He also mentioned one night stands. That's fine, if that's all you're
looking for in a relationship. That type of relationship, however,
doesn't give much emotional satisfaction. I think men can handle
one night stands better than women can. Sex for a woman is usually used
to fill an emotional need, not just a physical one. Women aren't looking 
as much for the physical satisfaction as they are the emotional support.

Knowing CJH's background, I can understand why he would be rather
pessimistic about inter-personal relationships. I just hope that he
doesn't allow a couple of bad experiences to influence his view
of women in general. We're not all scheming, conniving, money-hungry witches.