From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!hou5f!jrt Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: net.single_but_wish_the_hell_I_was_married Article-I.D.: hou5f.256 Posted: Mon Apr 4 09:19:57 1983 Received: Tue Apr 5 01:20:48 1983 I CAN'T BELIEVE WHAT SOME PEOPLE THINK OF RELATIONSHIPS AND COMMITMENTS !?!?! >From ariel!vax135!floyd!harpo!decvax!decwrl!sun!megatest!fortune!hpda!hplabs!hao!seismo!uwvax!reid Wed Mar 30 01:59:22 1983 >Subject: Re: net.single_but_wish_the_hell_I_was_married >Newsgroups: net.singles >Net.suicide is also composed mostly of people who want to leave it.... ------------- Is he trying to say singles are psychotic ??????? ------------- >First, it seems to me to be sort of a losing proposition to stay with one >person for 30+n years, with two obvious exceptions (obvious?): That you don't >wind up old and lonely (usually) and that what usually holds people together >is the committment to marriage, not the commitment to each other. Make it >work no matter what. ------------- I have to wonder about anyone that can't see that there is so much more to relationships than trying to ward off loneliness or trying to 'stick it out'. You get out of a relationship what you put into it. It appears that Glenn Reid doesn't put much into his relationships from his perceptions of what he gets out of them. _____________ >Second, one of the strongest reasons for the existence of family structure has >been economic, or so I'm learning in my women's studies class. In fact, many >careers and lives are severely limited by trying to impose a family structure >on top of it, when neither party involved wants to 'play house'. ------------ I also sense a misplaced set of values from above, and in what follows. There seems to be a greater importance placed on the financial drawbacks of being married than in the emotional and other rewards that long term COMMITMENTS can offer. It's no wonder Glenn that you seem to be having problems in attaining an involvement with someone. Your cash register heart has it's meter running at a price that extremely few women would even dare consider. ------------ >A radical exception and problem >is the fact that women bear children, and usually look after them, and that >puts them back into the position of being 'necessary in the family,' instead >of just have earning power and applying it where it is needed. This is getting >too long, I'll shut up. ------------ "JUST HAVE EARNING POWER AND APPLYING IT TO WHERE IT IS NEEDED." ??? Sorry, Glenn, there are a hell of a lot of people out here that consider a whole lot of things a damn sight more important than MONEY !! I really feel sorry for you and I suggest that you seek professional help and guidance. ------------ >Glenn Reid >..seismo!uwvax!reid ----------- Someone not afraid to tell it like I see it. With LOVE in my heart and a belief that there are a whole lot more of people like me out there. (** FRODO **) alias hou5f!jrt