From: utzoo!decvax!microsof!uw-beave!cornell!vax135!ariel!orion!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Title: Re: Friends/Lovers
Article-I.D.: otuxa.209
Posted: Tue Apr  5 09:03:37 1983
Received: Wed Apr  6 07:10:53 1983
References: hao.458

Greg asks whether it is possible to not have your sexual feelings in the first
place towards a friend. Probably not.
He then wonders how you suppress them when they are not returned.
The answer, very simply, is that you face reality.
This is not to say that it is not painful, or that in the back of your
mind there is always a little thought that "this just may change"; but,
again back to reality -- if you like the person and can be friends, you do it
by gritting your teeth and facing up to another of life's interesting twists.
(NOT meant to be an insult), but, if you are not mature enough (perhaps that
is the wrong word) to put aside your feelings, then maybe you should just
not get involved at all with the other person, but you may just lose out
on a good friendship.

Speaking from bittersweet experience, not having made up some nifty 
pseudoname to sign my articles with, but disagreeing with those who
think a long a long signature is a total waste of time, I remain,
Larry S. Kaufman, WEco, NSC, Lisle, Illinois