From: utzoo!decvax!decwrl!sun!megatest!fortune!hpda!hplabs!hao!seismo!uwvax!myers
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: net.single_but_wish_the_hell_I_was_married
Article-I.D.: uwvax.811
Posted: Sat Apr  9 23:12:55 1983
Received: Wed Apr 13 21:26:05 1983
References: hou5f.256 rlgvax.188

>Second, one of the strongest reasons for the existence of family structure has
>been economic, or so I'm learning in my women's studies class.  In fact, many
>careers and lives are severely limited by trying to impose a family structure
>on top of it, when neither party involved wants to 'play house'. 
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 >I also sense a misplaced set of values from above, and in what follows. There
 >seems to be a greater importance placed on the financial drawbacks of being
 >married than in the emotional and other rewards that long term COMMITMENTS
 >can offer.  It's no wonder Glenn that you seem to be having problems in
 >attaining an involvement with someone.  Your cash register heart has it's
 >meter running at a price that extremely few women would even dare consider.
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>A radical exception and problem
>is the fact that women bear children, and usually look after them, and that
>puts them back into the position of being 'necessary in the family,' instead
>of just have earning power and applying it where it is needed. This is getting
>too long, I'll shut up.
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 >"JUST HAVE EARNING POWER AND APPLYING IT TO WHERE IT IS NEEDED." ??? Sorry,
 >Glenn, there are a hell of a lot of people out here that consider a whole
 >lot of things a damn sight more important than MONEY !!  I really feel sorry
 >for you and I suggest that you seek professional help and guidance.  
		>(** FRODO **)  alias hou5f!jrt

"Mr. Frodo" seems to be implying that Glenn approves of the fact that economics
often plays an important role in relationships (esp. in capitalist societies).
Whether you like it or not, Frodo, relationships often have restraints placed
upon them by economic considerations.  I always knew this, but it was recently
brought home to me when a close friend was forced to marry someone she loved,
but did not really want to marry, due to an unwanted pregnancy.  Our society
does little for unwed mothers who want to keep their children; there are both
economic and social pressures to get married.  How many schools would hire
an unwed mother?  Think about reality a bit, Mr. Frodo, before you flame about
individuals being hard-hearted.

				Jeff Myers (alias Gollum)