From: utzoo!watmath!watcgl!dmmartindale
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: pawing
Article-I.D.: watcgl.342
Posted: Sat Apr 16 23:25:46 1983
Received: Sun Apr 17 10:21:58 1983
References: sdcattb.2584

Your article doesn't make it clear whether this is something that you want
to do, but feel you shouldn't, or whether you think it is something
that is expected of you regardless of your feelings.

Any sort of physical contact with a woman that YOU think of as "pawing"
is probably something you should avoid - if you think of it that negatively,
as something that you wouldn't do to someone you respect, and you do it anyway,
she is likely to sense that you really don't want to be doing this or that
you don't "respect" her.  So don't do it until you're in a position to
think of it as welcome physical affection rather than pawing.

"If you don't paw, they think you're gay": Nonsense.  You may be shy,
or inexperienced, or just not interested in physical things with this
person yet.  A sensitive woman is likely to perceive this.
There are insensitive women in the world, or ones whose background
is so different from yours that they couldn't understand the real
reason for your actions (or lack of them, in this case), and so you will
sometimes be misunderstood.  Such is life.  Spend your time looking for
women who you do get along with, who do understand you, rather than
worrying about how you appear to the ones who don't.

"Agressive females are as rare as Juhoubanicker's comet.  I have one in my
life, and she's my sister.  That's enough for me.":
With that sort of attitude in evidence, is it any wonder that women are
not agressive around you?  With that sort of attitude in evidence in
society at large, is it any wonder that women are as unagressive as they
generally are?  Sigh.
I think, maybe, that you equate "agressiveness" with boorishness and
insensitivity.  Not true.  I can't handle insensitive women (or men)
either, but there are people who are BOTH sensitive and "agressive"
(and, of course, some who are neither).
Personally, I prefer a woman to be approximately as agressive as I
am, or a bit more so.

	Dave Martindale, decvax!watmath!dmmartindale