From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhtsa!alice!npoiv!houxm!ihnp4!ihuxw!tommyo
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: RE: What do you think
Article-I.D.: ihuxw.311
Posted: Thu Apr 28 20:45:14 1983
Received: Sat Apr 30 05:22:11 1983


about girls asking guys?  I see nothing wrong with it.  I get uptight
when I try asking girls out, so I`m sure it works both ways.  Don`t
come on real strong, like "Let`s go for a ride to the country, hop in
the back seat and make love" or "Hey, big guy.  Want some fun"
That`s turn-off city in my view.  Be casual.  Strike up a conversation
about anything not heavy, like school (if applicable), work, the weather,
etc.  Then just mention something you`d like to do, and make it simple,
like lunch, go bowling, mini-golf, local carnival, bike riding maybe,
maybe a talk some teacher or fellow worker may be giving.  A concert
might be a little heavy, but then again I`ve taken a couple girls on
the first date to a concert, so its probably o.k.  If you get past
square one (which I haven`t much lately), BE YOURSELF!  Don`t be what
you`re not.  Then, during a conversation you could make some nice
compliment.  Don`t go overboard, little things could go a long way.
Breaking that ice is tough, I know, but if you just push yourself, you
can do it.

Now I know some people out there from work who may be reading this &
also know me will say, "Hey, Tom!  Since when did you become an expert
on asking people out?"  Hey, I`m far from it.  But I do know this.
I had the pleasure of a very nice girl asking me out about a year or so
ago.  One of her friends was getting married and she asked me if I`d
like to go.  Well, as luck would hacve it my best friend was graduating
that same day and was one of the commencement speakers, and I`d already
made plans that I just couldn`t get out of.  Anyway, it gave me such
an emotional boost that I`d never had before.  After getting massively
dumped on a month or so before, it gave me a new start on life.  So
if you know some nice guy out there and would like to get to know him,
go ahead and take the first step.  I agained a very nice friend, maybe
you could do even better.

Tom O`Connor
ihuxw!tommyo