From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhtsa!alice!npoiv!houxm!ihnp4!ihuxl!no5db
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: Greetings, and some questions. - (nf)
Article-I.D.: ihuxl.351
Posted: Fri Apr 29 10:05:30 1983
Received: Sat Apr 30 06:09:51 1983
References: <1990@uiucdcs.UUCP>, <350@ihuxl.UUCP>

Sheesh, the first time I try to submit an article in weeks and UNIX logs
me off in the middle of it. Anyway, as I was saying before I was so
rudely interrupted; I think it is better to make your intentions known
at the beginning of a relationship. If I meet a girl that I am interested
in dating, I like to know, right away, if she has the same feelings for me.
That way if she doesn't I don't feel as much disappointment as I would
if I spent a lot of time and effort getting to know her and possibly
getting close to her.

I realize that starting a relationship with a friendship has many strong
points. In fact, this is exactly the way my last relationship started. I
had known this girl for about 3 years, and in that time we had become very
close friends. All the time we had known each other we had been involved
in relationships with other people, so there was really never time for us
to even consider anything but friendship. Then all of a sudden just by
chance, neither of us was dating anyone, and we began seeing a lot more
of each other. Our transition from friends to lovers was not particularly
difficult and the relationship went very well. What was really painful
about the relationship is that when we broke up we lost not only our
relationship, but the friendship we had spent many years building.
We are still friends, but it is nothing like it was before we starting
dating. This experience has made me very wary of trying to date a girl
who is a close friend.  I really don't think it is worth risking a
good friendship for a more serious relationship.

					Lance