From: utzoo!decvax!ucbvax!G:asa
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Built For Comfort, Not For Speed
Article-I.D.: populi.560
Posted: Sat Apr 30 15:43:53 1983
Received: Tue May  3 05:54:11 1983

     My experience has been that except for spontaneous gestures of
genuine affection (handshake, quick hug, etc.), it's best to let your
new friend (female) initiate the "heavy stuff" (pawing, petting, or
whatever).  A woman who genuinely enjoys your company will be just as
eager to explore the physical side of your relationship as you are,
and she'll appreciate the chance to have things happen at a pace she's
comfortable with (and at a pace you're probably more comfortable with
as well, if you're being honest about the whole thing).  Do not under
any circumstances start pawing in order to "prove something" (either
to her or to yourself) -- this is the worst reason in the world to
touch someone.

     Have faith in the fact that a woman who wants intimacy with you
will manage to communicate that fact to you one way or another.  Don't
get hung up trying to decode "subtle" signals -- when the signal
comes, it won't be subtle, whether she just wants to hug a little or
"go all the way" (ghastly phrase!).  Trust the fact that for every
woman who thinks you're "slow" there will be ten who will cherish that
"slowness".  Don't let a lack of experience paralyze you: again, a
woman who enjoys your company will enjoy showing you the ropes (or
learning them with you, depending on her experience).

     Of course, there are plenty of women who will jump to the
conclusion that you're a nerd if you don't put the moves on them, but
they also tend to be the women who are overly concerned about your
bank balance, your car, your clothes, your cock size, and how fast you
run the mile.  (If this sounds like your kind of girlfriend, I wish
you well.) Fortunately, in sex what matters is not how far you get but
how you get there: find a lady with similar views and you'll both have
a ball.

John "Easy Does It" Hevelin
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