From: utzoo!watmath!watarts!bernie
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Nice Guys
Article-I.D.: watarts.1814
Posted: Wed May  4 11:25:27 1983
Received: Wed May  4 23:49:51 1983
Reply-To: bernie@watarts.uucp (Bernie Roehl)

Yes, it's certainly true that many women (and at least as many men) pursue
potential partners who represent a "challenge" of some sort.  It's also true
that many women are attracted to men who are aggressive to the point of being
dangerous, simply because they find such men more interesting and exciting to
be around; the analogy that someone (I can't recall who) gave to teenagers and
fast cars is a good one.  And yes, many women are attracted to men who are
"macho jerks".
None of this is very surprising.  What is surprising (at least to me) is that
many of these same women later complain that "men are such jerks" or "why don't
men know how to treat women" or "men are the reason society is the way it is".
What they overlook (and this is an amazingly common blind spot) is that their
comments don't apply to men in general, but only to the men they've chosen to
spend time with.  Most men are not jerks, most men know how to treat women (or
are at least willing to learn) and most men are not the driving force behind
the sexism/racism/violence that characterizes society as we know it.  However,
a great many women aren't interested in spending time with "most men"; it's
the aggressive, overbearing, demanding, violent men who are the most interesting
and desireable.