From: utzoo!decvax!genrad!linus!allegra!eagle!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!seismo!rlgvax!Jeffrey
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Asking men out
Article-I.D.: rlgvax.389
Posted: Sat May  7 23:06:33 1983
Received: Fri May 13 07:42:11 1983

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Date:Sat, 7-May-83 23:06:33 EDT

I find the idea of women asking men for dates pleasant to contemplate.
It would be a pleasant relief from being turned down.  However, my
question is--suppose you would just as soon not go out with her?  Mind
you, not that you dislike her or whatever, you just do not happen to be
interested.

The choice you are left with is to refuse, which I believe would be an
rather nasty insult to someone who has just complimented you rather
nicely, or to accept a date you do not want and have to face the
problem of refusal further down the road.  So I think I can see why
women rarely ask men directly for dates, and think it is probably just
as well they do not.  After all, they are plenty of ways in which
either sex can indicate they are interested, almost all of them better
than asking for a date.

               Jeffrey Kegler
               ...{seismo,mcnc,lime,we13,brl-bmd}!rlgvax!jeff