From: utzoo!decvax!decwrl!sun!megatest!fortune!hpda!hplabs!hao!seismo!uwvax!reid
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Pruning Dates
Article-I.D.: uwvax.866
Posted: Mon May  9 19:29:06 1983
Received: Sat May 14 00:32:40 1983


There is functionally no difference between a woman asking a man out and a man
asking a woman out.  There are the same risks, rewards, expectations; in short,
everything.  It is no fun to get turned down, but it is better than going on a
"bummer" date, anyway.  Men:  if you don't want to go out with somebody who
asks you out, then turn them down.  It is as simple as that.  "No thanks," will
do just fine.  You can be more polite, depending on how likely you are to see
the woman again (does she work with you?) or how well you know her.  If you
don't know her, you owe her nothing more than a "No thanks."  Excuses are a
bad idea, in my opinion.  Nobody really believes excuses, they are just a gut-
less way of saying no.  Unless they are very convincing, in which case they
accomplish nothing--you will just have to say no some time in the future.
People will basically respect you if you give them a little consideration, and
just decide that it isn't a good idea.  I like to get turned down with just a
plain old NO.  I sure don't get my hopes up, or make excuses for myself, or
whatever.  It is just over, like that, and I'm much better off.  It is just
the same for everybody else, too, male or female.

Glenn