From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!lime!houxg!hogpc!houxm!ihnp4!ihuxv!angel
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: "Farewell" letters
Article-I.D.: ihuxv.456
Posted: Fri Apr 22 12:36:49 1983
Received: Mon Apr 25 01:04:23 1983

In general, "breaking up is hard to do," unless it's some bad situation 
you're glad to get out of. I have found writing my thoughts and feelings
has always been an effective way to communicate them to someone I care about.
It certainly is not a substitute for face to face interaction, but when two
people find personal contact very painful, a letter helps.

Who does it help? The author may feel better after getting those feelings
down on paper, but I feel those ideas are wasted if the letter is not sent.
Even if "old wounds" are somehow opened, I think it is definitely worth
communicating those feelings to the concerned party. This only applies if
there is some caring left in you. Certainly the easiest way to break up is
without regard for the other person, in which case a letter would be only 
self-serving.

I guess my only point is that letters are very valuable to me - either
sent or received - when two people do care for eachother, but the
relationship as they are used to it is ending.
						Dean Angelico
						BTL-IH