From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!trb
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: starting a relationship with someone who is already in one
Article-I.D.: floyd.1476
Posted: Wed Apr 27 14:22:24 1983
Received: Thu Apr 28 03:43:34 1983
References: rabbit.1385

I wouldn't make the first move to start a relationship with a woman who
was already in one.  Such behavior, though common, is low class in my
opinion.  I wouldn't want someone sneaking around with my sweetie,
behind my back.

Besides the obvious jealousy and hatred, there's something interesting
about a person who elbows his way into a relationship:

Sometimes (always) relationships are quite taxing, and the two
participants might have different points of view on certain issues.
Let's say I'm at odds with my sweetie and we fight.  Then let's say
some nasty new guy comes into sweetie's life and butters her up.  He's
likely to say "Yea, you're right, Andy's a creep, why would he disagree
with you like that?" when he has no interest in the issue other than to
steal sweetie from me.  Lots of people fall for this ploy, it happens
ALL THE TIME.

I've seen lots of situations where a person elbows his way between two
others, and if the elbower succeeds, the elbowee is really hurt, unless
he realizes that the woman wasn't worthwhile.

It's a matter of self respect.  Some people grab for whatever they can
in life without regard for the feelings of others.  That's their
business, I just pray that they stay away from me.

	Andy Tannenbaum   Bell Labs  Whippany, NJ   (201) 386-6491