From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!whuxlb!eisx!pyuxll!abnjh!lute
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Pursuing Attached Women
Article-I.D.: abnjh.127
Posted: Wed Apr 27 14:05:40 1983
Received: Thu Apr 28 04:31:31 1983



In regards to Cliff Pursiker's question about pursuing women already
attached, I would advise against it.  If the woman in question has already
failed to acknowledge your hints of getting closer, that in itself
should be a clear enough message to stay out of the picture.  Why waste all
of your valuable time and precious emotional energy on someone, who by their
very inaction, doesn't put the same value on them as you do?  Unless you are an
emotional masochist, the frustration, hurt and (usually) growing loss of
self-esteem is NOT worth it!  If the person were really that drawn to you,
they would be making themselves available to you.

Although there are some who might say:  "Faint heart never won fair lady."
I would say:  "Don't knock yourself out for nothing."  If you have made
several honest, sincere attempts, let it drop.  If nothing else, you'll
be free of the emotional torment.  Also, I've noticed a very strange thing
about people and courtship:  People often want what they think they can't
have!  By dropping your pursuit of this person you will not only take
pressure off her and yourself, but she may find you more desireable when
it is clear you are NOT as available as she thought you once were.

Anyone else out there have any other opinions?


					Jim Collymore