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From: lbm@linus.UUCP (Lisa B. Maiocco)
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Subject: MOTSS response
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Date: Thu, 25-Aug-83 16:46:13 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug 25 16:46:13 1983
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Responses from female straight 'brethren' are ok too, right?

i have a problem understanding people's attitude towards people
who are homosexual. For example, here are some (paraphrased) attitudes
that i have heard too many times( I also go to MIT) .

	"i don't like homosexuals looking me over" - heard from three different
	males i know

	and

	"i would be offended if someone who was gay made a pass at me" -another
	male friend of mine 



I find it hard to believe that these opinions didn't come from my grandmother.
What makes a person making a 'pass', shall we say, to a MOTSS any different 
than to a MOTOS????  Men i know have said that they feel pressured and
uncomfortable when another male expresses interest in them. How is
having men watch men walking down the hall any worse than men watching
women? How often in today's society do men driving by beep their horn
or yell proposition to women walking by? (in my suburban home town,
very frequently). The pressure felt by being propositioned exists for
both men and women, no matter which sex asks which, and it stems from
the common lack of trust as to the others motives.  I haven't gotten
over that basic mistrust entirely either, but i don't get disgusted or nauseous
when someone asks me out(male or female). I just politely say that i'm
not interested, and henceforth try to more conscious of how i treat them
(to make sure that I don't lose them as friends).I understand (and I agree)
that you've got to make yourself clear.But to get so worked up
and uncomfortable around a person that you avoid them and are not able to
deal with them as people(as a good friend of mine did when another guy
asked him out) is insensitive and cruel. Would you do that to a woman that
asked you out but you were just not interested in? By asking someone out,
you make yourself vulnerable, and i really get ticked off when i see 
anyone get really hurt  by some insensitive jerk(male or female).  


					lisa.
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