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From: jjm@hou5e.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: reaction to an approach by a homosexual...
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Date: Fri, 26-Aug-83 09:32:55 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug 26 09:32:55 1983
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	How do you know the person is a homosexual?  I would assume that
	if they are straightforward enought to say "I'm gay, would you
	like to go out on a date" then they are also mature enough to
	accept the polite answer "No, thank you".

	If the person does something "aggressively sexual" I would not 
	be as considerate of their feelings.  If a man came up to a woman
	in a bar and put his arms around her, she might (reasonably) throw
	her drink in his face.  I don't think it's that outrageous if a
	man responded in the same way in the same situation.

	What I seem to be seeing in other some other people's answers
	is a paranoia that they may actually go out on a date with a
	gay without knowing it - what's the matter, are you afraid of
	"catching" homosexuality??? It's not contagious...

	Some people also seem to fear being approached by a homosexual
	because it means that someone else thinks that THEY are a 
	homosexual, too... Of course it would be the people with the lowest
	opinions of homosexuals that have this fear.  "This slime-ball
	thinks I'm a slime-ball too???"

	When I lived in NYC a number of my friends were gay.  They 
	understood that I was not gay, but that didn't keep us from being 
	friends.  Take this situation:  a friend asks you to go to a
	baseball game.  You both go to the game, have a few beers and
	hot dogs, and then go to your separate homes.  Now, what difference
	does it make if the two people in the story are male, female, 
	gay or straight?  None at all, to my way of thinking.

	Jim McParland
	AT&T Information Systems Laboratories - Holmdel, NJ
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