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From: frankr@inmet.UUCP
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Subject: MOTSS response - (nf)
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Date: Sat, 27-Aug-83 05:56:08 EDT
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Posted: Sat Aug 27 05:56:08 1983
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inmet!frankr    Aug 26 10:53:00 1983


Wow, such vehement responses. And over such a trivial situation. Just how
terrible can it be to have someone you are not interested in make a pass at
you? Thank god most of the women I have flirted with over the years have been
able to contain their anger/fear/disgust. At the very least, most of my 
rejections have been polite. 

Over the years I may have been propositioned by a MOTSS maybe half a dozen 
times. I don't remember ever reacting with fear or disgust. Bemused, surprised
or a little embarassed yes, afraid or disgusted no.

If a man were to make some sort of overture (read pass) that seemed at least
in part sincere I would try to diplomatically make my preferences for MOTOS
known. I don't think I would be automatically flattered or offended. That 
sort of depends on whether the person making the pass was someone I liked and 
respected or someone I disliked.

Just because someone invited me to dinner I wouldn't assume they were inter-
ested in my body regardless of their sex. I like to have company when I eat.
It would never occur to me that just because someone asked me to dinner that 
they were gay. While I probably wouldn't accept an invitation from a gay man 
who I thought was *interested* in me, I certainly wouldn't hesitate to have 
dinner with a friend who happened to be gay.

                                             Franklin Reynolds
                                             decvax!cca!ima!inmet!frankr