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From: hammy@mit-eddie.UUCP (J. Scott Hamilton)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Meeting MOTSS
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Date: Mon, 29-Aug-83 14:03:45 EDT
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Posted: Mon Aug 29 14:03:45 1983
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	Regarding gay-heterosexual encounters, I think decorem for such
an encounter could follow that of a hetero-hetero encounter.  I think
comportment should be fairly general for all personal encounters.

	Think about it.  I think the standard reaction of a women who
has just had a strange man's arms put around her would definitely be
apprehension, with a good chance of disgust and anger.  Considering that
we live in a basically "no touching" society, it displays a violation of
a person's personal privacy.  

	Also, etiquette for social intercourse becomes more complicated
when one considers that many heterosexual people feel fear when
confronted with a homosexual person.  I have noticed that I (like many
people) have a fairly good radar for determining someones sexual
preference.  Likewise, most homosexuals I know are similarly equipped,
and are usually able to rapidly distinguish a person's preference.  I
personally believe that it is a severe breach of etiquette for a gay
person to display a sexual interest in a person who is either known or
suspected to be heterosexual.  The many times that I have been
approached, I have tried to be graceful about the issue, but I have been
annoyed nevertheless.  Then again, I usually try to avoid any sexual
overtones when I first become familiar with someone.  I think it is a
matter of respect for the others humanity.

	Sigh, I guess I was born to late to enjoy the days of chivalry.

-- 
						J. Scott Hamilton
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