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From: israel@umcp-cs.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Meeting MOTSS
Message-ID: <2261@umcp-cs.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 30-Aug-83 22:47:54 EDT
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Posted: Tue Aug 30 22:47:54 1983
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Organization: Univ. of Maryland, Computer Science Dept.
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I do not agree with rabbit!jj's feeling that the discussion on
homosexuality is boring.  I find it extremely interesting.

I have never been asked out on a date by someone gay, but if I was I
would react fairly calmly and laid back (somewhat inversely
proportional to the politeness of the request.  i.e.  I would react
stronger to less polite approaches, though I wouldn't react violently
in any case).  If it didn't seem specifically sexual to me (and unless
it was blatant it probably wouldn't since I tend to view people in a
good light as probably not having different ulterior motives) I would
probably interpret t as someone just wanting a friendly get-together
and I would probably accept.

If something like that had happened to me eight to ten years ago, part
of my internal reaction would have been disgust but I think that I'm
more tolerant and non-judgemental now.

I think that a big part of the disgust and/or hatred reaction is based
on a person's views on their own sexual identity.  Eight or ten years
ago I was less comfortable with myself as a person and as a sexual
being but now I am more comfortable with and more accepting of that
aspect of myself.  Part of it also may be that then I didn't know
any gay people (or didn't know I knew any), but since then I have
met a good many, and have a number of gay friends and have found
that there really is no difference between homo- and heterosexuals
outside of what sex of people they prefer to engage in sex with.

Most gay men do not eye the bodies of heterosexual men with wild
crazed lust in their eyes, and most lesbians are not card-carrying
dykes who want to eliminate the male species.  (Though, to be honest
I have met gays who fit the stereotypes, just as there are blacks,
jews, orientals, intellectuals, athletes, programmers etc. ad
nauseum who fit stereotypes of those groups.)

Yours for a more non-judgemental universe,
-- 

~~~ Bruce
Computer Science Dept., University of Maryland
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