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From: softech@micomvax.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Who makes the phone call
Message-ID: <192@micomvax.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 7-Aug-83 19:42:57 EDT
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Posted: Sun Aug  7 19:42:57 1983
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Howdy campers,

	I have met wonderful ladies in a variety of circumstances and have
always "played it by ear": Sometimes, I'll give her my phone number,
sometimes I'll ask her's. Most assertive and self-confident women will
appreciate the fact that a man leaves them the initiative. A woman that is a
little shy will appreciate it also, but will be very hesitant to call.
Try to weigh which approach is most likely to succeed, and go for it.
You usually can tell if someone is interested in you, and if you have doubts,
just ask (" Gee, Carmilla, too bad we don't have more time, I really enjoyed
this, and I would like to see you again sometime. Mind if I call you up?
Or maybe you'd like my phone number?").

Expressing your interest in a non-threatening manner is very important: don't
bite your nails, droll or shake excessively. Don't roll your eyes when you
talk to her. Don't jump up and down all the time. Be cool and listen. All of
us are permanently sending non-verbal messages to the people in our
surroundings. You can usually tell if someone is interested (or not) in
starting/pursuing a conversation/relationship. They can usually tell if you
are also interested, even if you don't say so explicitly. Remember that
showing TOO MUCH interest is just as bad as no interest at all.


All the way from Montreal,

Richard Blouin.
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