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Subject: Honesty and Growth In A Relationship
Message-ID: <372@ihuxs.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 16-Sep-83 16:58:21 EDT
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Posted: Fri Sep 16 16:58:21 1983
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Ideally, people should grow from all relationships they have with other
people, in one way or another.  When one develops a relationship with
another person, one learns a new set of ideas, feelings, attitudes, and
habits that had never been noticed before.  Even though people can be
of certain types, each person is different, and a person grows just by
getting to know various individuals.

As for honesty in a relationship, there are different degrees of it.
There is the honesty involved in bringing up things when they are being
felt, so that both know where they stand with each other, and there is
the kind of honesty which can lead to trouble if abused.  For example
all people have their "hurt points" which they may be very sensitive about.
To always state your "honest feelings" in these areas may do more to damage
the relationship than to help it, especially if the "hurt points" are really
very trivial in relation to the entire relationship.  It can be a growing
experience to learn to discuss such points with a person in a way that they
may be able to deal with it, but that takes tact, and though tact is not
DIS-honest, it is not always honest in the stricter meaning of the word.