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From: jcz@ncsu.UUCP
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Subject: Re: Honesty in Relationships
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Date: Mon, 19-Sep-83 23:54:03 EDT
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Posted: Mon Sep 19 23:54:03 1983
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    I have always thought that total honesty is best for a
relationship.  In fact, I did never really had a REAL relationship
until I began practising that.  But what is total honesty?  To use
Glenn Reid's example, dose she *really* pale in comparison with that
old girl friend?  Don't use feelings of the moment as truth.  Nothing
will lie to you more than your own intransient discomforts and fears.
If a feeling or impression persists, then you should pay attention to
it.  Sometimes it can be very hard to be honest even to yourself, but
feelings that are not of the moment - they don't lie.

    I try to be honest, it is difficult.  You never know what the
result of your actions will be, and so you are temted to lie.  But if
you are sure of your feelings, then the only course of action is to
act by them.  This is to hold to principle, be it love or anything
else.

    After re-reading the above, I realize it must seem I am preaching.
However, having watched my parents', and several of my friends'
relationships deterorate due to this, I feel very strongly about this.

John Carl Zeigler
North Carolina State University
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