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From: dyer@wivax.UUCP (Stephen Dyer)
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Subject: Honesty in relationships
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Date: Tue, 20-Sep-83 03:10:05 EDT
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Posted: Tue Sep 20 03:10:05 1983
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I think 'jcz' hits it on the head when he distinguishes spur-of-the-moment
feelings and impressions from strongly held feelings and beliefs.  Surely
Thomas More was as much a man of diplomacy as he was a man of honesty--
otherwise, he'd have been completely ineffective as England's Lord
Chancellor (or whatever he was.)  In the same way, it is important to
communicate to each other the deep truths of a relationship.  But, more
often, we're dealing with mundane day-to-day affairs, and 'diplomacy' is often
the better approach.  Glenn Reid's examples are funny, but to the point.
Why say something that might hurt your partner if the situation doesn't
warrant it?

/Steve Dyer
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