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Subject: Re: Resonses to MOTSS.
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Date: Wed, 5-Oct-83 00:21:52 EDT
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Robert Wahl:  I will concede that I did not read the book in question.  How
can one obtain a copy in this town (West Lafayette, IN) which, though it
houses a university (Purdue) which is respected everywhere but here, is still
rather small and provincial?

One gay man sent me a response by mail to the question "how did you acquire
your sexual preference?", which I posted earlier.  It was similar to yours:

       If you are like most men, the thought of having sex with a man just
       doesn't appeal to you.  It's not something that you choose not to do,
       it's something that you just have no desire to do at all.
       
       Now try to imagine feeling the same way about having sex with a woman.
       You see?  It's not a matter of choice, it's just the way things are.
              
       I won't go so far as to say that there aren't any gay men who chose to
       be that way, but I don't know any who did.

This note and your article (stating that your preference was acquired early)
does make me wonder if some event happened early in your childhood (probably
between you and your mother) which you have repressed from your conscious
memory, but which has the effect of making you so terrified of women that you
are incapable of making yourself as vulnerable to a woman as would occur in a
sexual relationship.  I understand (from reading; I haven't experience to draw
on) that fear is one of the top sexual demotivators, if not the top.  Note
that I am not condemning you (I suppose I could have toned down my previous
article a bit; it WAS a bit harsh); you're only human, and given such a
background, homosexuality may be all you're capable of.  In other words, my
hypothesis is that your turn toward homosexuality and my approach to it may
have come from related causes (being hurt by a woman or women).  But I still
don't think it is optimal or normal for humans.  Still, if I can get a copy
of that book, I will read it; though it will be difficult for me to avoid
looking for subtle but plausible falsehoods that may be in there.

Sorry about posting this to net.singles, but it doesn't fit all that well in
net.social, and it certainly does not fit in net.religion; I think I will post
a note to net.news.group nth-ing (it's more than seconding) the creation of
net.gays or some such.  (Note that I see no reason why net.gays should be
restricted to gays only, since net.women has a lot of men posting to it,
including myself.)

-- Jeff Sargent/pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq