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From: twltims@watmath.UUCP (Tracy Tims)
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Subject: Re: Using Relationships as Vehicles for Growth - One More Time
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Date: Sat, 24-Sep-83 22:49:27 EDT
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Posted: Sat Sep 24 22:49:27 1983
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I have had several relationships of various depths and honesty in my life.
So far, they have become more honest as I came to know myself (and thus
others) better.  My first relationships were almost an unconcious satisfying
of vaguely identified drives and longings.  My last relationship was by far
the most satisfying and honest.  I am sure that it was the honesty and
openness of communication, more than any other thing, that made the
relationship satisfying.

I have found that honesty is best accepted by people who TRUST
each other, between people who can believe (ephemeral evidence to the
contrary) that each takes the others well-being very seriously.  I
suggest that if you don't have the trust, you won't have the honesty;
and your relationship may be satisfying, but it will be missing an important
part.  I think it takes fairly mature people to operate well at that
level.  I'm always on the lookout for them!

How honest was I?  Really honest.  Really really honest.  Really really
PAINFULLY honest.  And it made all the difference.

		Tracy Tims
		watmath!twltims		The University of Waterloo
formerly	hcr!tracy  		Human Computing Resources Corporation