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From: dyer@wivax.UUCP (Stephen Dyer)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Dear net.abby
Message-ID: <18700@wivax.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 24-Sep-83 14:12:37 EDT
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Posted: Sat Sep 24 14:12:37 1983
Date-Received: Mon, 26-Sep-83 06:27:44 EDT
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This guy sounds like a real wonk--someone very absorbed in his own work
and relatively insensitive to his girlfriend's needs and feelings.

Unless she's working for her master's degree in masochism, I'd recommend
that she do one of the following:

	1.) Make sure she communicates just what she wants from him.
	    No subtlety is needed.  In fact, he may even appreciate
	    the candor, given his lack of sensitivity.  No sense
	    setting herself up as a martyr when the problem is just
	    that he can't take hints.

	2.) As Abby (or is it Ann Landers?) would say, "Wake up and
	    smell the coffee."  If he doesn't have any extraordinary
	    redeeming features to offset his problems, dump him.

I'd go with #2, myself.

/Steve Dyer
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