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Subject: Re: INTERRACIAL DATING - (nf)
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Date: Sun, 2-Oct-83 02:22:27 EDT
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cmcl2!tihor    Sep 25 02:22:00 1983

[-Aside to Mike Condict:  I think you are overreacting to the sentence:

	Is this something that you condone for others but would 
		never do yourself?

I think (hope) that cheryl was using it in the reflexive interogitive.  That is
are you soeone who "condones" interratial dating as opposed to someone who 
doesn't particularly notice such things.]

In answer to the questions:



	What are your feelings about interracial dating?

In the sense that that question is sually asked I don't have any.  That is
it simply isn't something I normally think about.  As with most rational 
people I can not but be in favor of it in so far as it indicates that 
there are at least two more people who have put our heritage of racism
behind them.   My oldest close female friend's previous lover was black;
I always though that they made a lovely couple since they we both very
attractive and she is a flaming copper red-headed.  

Now like all mortals I am not completely without sin.  When I have been 
in the romantic dumps and saw a mixed couple there have been a couple
of times when I resented that he (black) had someone female and I didn't
in a harsher way than when I saw a white couple.  But I recognize that this
projection of my problems onto a member of a markedly different group who
was in fact completely innocnent is one of the mechanisms that creates and
feeds racism and dealt with it as strongly as possible.  (I hate fuzzy thinking
in myself most of all.)

In practice I do not have enough black women in my current areas of interest
to have that many close black female friends at the moment, but overall about
one out of three of my close relationships in the past have been with black women, and about one sixth with orientals and Amerindians.  

	Are any of these feeling based upon your upbringing, societal 
		pressures, etc.?
While I would like to give my parents all the credit some must go to NYC 
(and the Village in paticular) for being the kind of a place where you 
can meet all sorts of people are learn to value the different.

	To what degree do you let these things influence your opinion 
		on this subject?
I am not real big on running my life by values systems which aren't justifiable.
On a rational basis.  Hopefully my irrational iflaws are mild enough that I 
can override them consciously when they get out of line. 

	Is this something that you condone for others but would never 
		do yourself?

See above.

	Have you ever dated a person of another race? Why(Curiosity,Interest)?
Why not.  In each case the other people involved were interesting, bright, and 
attractive.  Why would anyone turn that down?  (At least until you got to know 
them and saw how your personalities meshed over time.)

-- 
                Stephen Tihor/CIMS/NYU/251 Mercer St./NY NY 10012
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