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From: coggs@sunybcs.UUCP (Robert Coggeshall)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: waiting for ANYONE to 'grow-up'
Message-ID: <455@sunybcs.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 24-Sep-83 15:51:48 EDT
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Posted: Sat Sep 24 15:51:48 1983
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 I heartily agree with watmath!twltims on the point that there are 
relationships where diplomacy/tactfulness is REQUIRED. I've observed
that two people are often attracted to each other because of their dif-
ferences just as much as their commonalities.

 In a relationship where the two personalities are complementary; one
person calm, stable, detached, the other excitable, volatile and sensitive, 
clashes are inevitable. A relationship like this won't work unless there 
is a generous amount of diplomacy/tactfulness  on the part of the 
calm/stable/detached one toward the excitable/volatile/sensitive
one. I've been there.

 I doubt if it is reasonable to expect anyone to 'grow up' and out of
a general character trait. The excitable/volatile/sensitive types are
just convinced as the calm/stable/detached ones that they ARE already. 

:-) )-:

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