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From: harvey@decvax.UUCP (Miriam Harvey)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Names/titles
Message-ID: <224@decvax.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 30-Sep-83 11:18:25 EDT
Article-I.D.: decvax.224
Posted: Fri Sep 30 11:18:25 1983
Date-Received: Sun, 2-Oct-83 19:25:48 EDT
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Years ago when my parents married my mother took my father's last name,
which at that time was the accepted thing to do.  This resulted in her
name being:
	Mary Joann Catherine Turon Amos
quite a mouth full.  Both parents go by their middle names as someone
else in the immediate family had the same first name.  Both parents
this practice a bit tedious, so all their daughters were not given a
middle name and their son was given a name unique to the immediate
family.  The daughters could then use the maiden name as a middle
name if they got married.

Now as a married women I have a middle name and I have retained a
name that lineates my history.  At the time I married I considered
keeping my own last name, but for other reasons choose to take my
husbands.  However I did not take a title as I had not used one
previously.  I am not Mrs. or Ms. nor was I a Miss.  I am individual
as indicated by my name.  I have found it easy to correct people on
the lack of title, especially since I usually have to correct them
on the first name as well.

If I have daughter, I will most likely give her a middle name. My
first choice for a name happens to include a middle name.  My second
choice does not.  I also except society to have changed by the time
she would be an adult and the decision of any name change is hers
anyways.  Any child I have will have an unique name to the immediate
family - ie no juniors or little "fill-in-name".

This is only the name scheme I used.  I believe it is the individual(s)
right to choose their scheme (hyphenation, combination, traditional,
etc).

				Miriam Amos Harvey