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From: llf@houxz.UUCP (L.FENG)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: intercultural dating
Message-ID: <538@houxz.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 7-Oct-83 07:44:53 EDT
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Posted: Fri Oct  7 07:44:53 1983
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Right!  Intercultural is much more of a problem.  

Example?:  I grew up in a very traditional/conservative Chinese family.  So
I have a lot of Oriental values (like not arguing with my folks) and a lot
of American values.  This causes confusion in me about how to act/what to do/
what to believe in.  It causes worse problems with whomever I happen to be
going out with.  Not only do they have to try and decipher my values, they
have to deal with my vacillating back and forth on a subject.  Of course,
this works both ways.  I think I'll never understand some of the things that
my caucasion friends do and I'll never understand the way my overseas friends
think.  Really, though, it doesn't have to be as radical a difference.  Look
at, say, someone with a family that's really "jolly" vs someone with a family
that's "quiet", and they can't get along with each other's family.  How can
anyone possibly SURVIVE with out their family?  And how could you get by 
without your spouses family?  They are VITAL.  At least for me.  Most of my
friends wouldn't understand that (or the concept of extended family.  Can
you imagine grandfolks, uncles, cousins, kids, all under the same roof?)
Well, I think this is something that needs to be solved, in any case.