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Subject: Re: Re:An honest request for information - (nf)
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Date: Tue, 25-Oct-83 21:57:00 EDT
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parsec!holt    Oct 25 14:59:00 1983

Mary-Anne,

    You make a lot of good points in your article.  I would like to respond
to one of the first.  That is, that women feel (on the average) that they
should not like sex, or that it is bad for them to have it.  I feel that this
is in large part due to the socialization that children go through.  "SEX"
is a dirty thing throughout childhood, especially if the child grows up in
a fundamentalist religious environment.  It really disturbs me that people
can be so hypocritical about something which is such a basic underlying
theme in life.  Maybe one day, people (on a broad scale) will realize that
sex is a natural thing, something which one doesn't have to be ashamed of, 
and which is really a thing of beauty.  Especially if it's between two people
who really care for each other.
    In response to your suggestion that men wait for women to take the 
initiative...   I'm not sure that most women would agree with you, but
wouldn't mind it if they did.  What about it women of netland?  Do you like
to take the initiative or should the man?  Or should both?

				Dave Holt
				{allegra,ihnp4,uiucdcs}!parsec!holt

P.S.  	In thinking about the problem of a man not wanting to wait in a
	relationship for the women to want sex...  It seems to me that
	there is a tradeoff between the wants and needs of one person
	and the wants and needs of the other person.  If neither is
	willing to compromise, then perhaps the relationship wasn't
	headed in the right direction in the first place???