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From: plaskon@hplabsc.UUCP (Dawn Plaskon)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re:  has he money? -><- has she money?
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Date: Tue, 29-Nov-83 21:33:54 EST
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Having been married for seven years to a man of little or
no supportive potential, I am certainly interested in the
ability of any prospective partner to support himself 
reasonably.  I am also prepared to support myself, as I
have been doing for the past 12 years.  Being the sole 
worker in a relationship, when you are a women and working
in a field (banking) not noted for its high salaries is
not fun.

I have since gotten divorced, moved into the CS industry,
and taken up with someone quite capable of being responsible
for himself.

I think that an inability to work at a level sufficient to 
provide self-support, if due to a lack of the desire to work
and not because of some external factor, displays irresponsibility
on the loafers part.  And since accepting responsibility for
one's own actions is a very major part of being an adult, I
do not think that women or men can be blamed for wishing to
avoid becoming attached to someone who is not willing to be
adult in their behavior