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From: peg@linus.UUCP (Margaret E. Craft)
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Subject: Re: bonding
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Date: Mon, 14-Nov-83 20:37:52 EST
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I held her as soon as the doctor decided she was breathing and the nurse made
a half-hearted swipe at her messiness (she was VERY messy...).  For about 15
minutes (while they were cleaning ME up), I had her in my arms.  Did it help?
I think so.  The whole experience is so amazing, that I needed that reality
to be convinced that it was, indeed, a baby!!  She got weighed and labeled and
wrapped up, then back to me for about an hour, during which time she nursed
(or did a reasonable approximation thereof) and we looked each other over.
Now THAT was definitely worth it, even though I was very tired...

On the other hand, friends who, for various reasons, didn't get "hands-on"
experience for a couple of hours have reported no resulting difficulties.

My feeling is that it is a very nice experience, and unless there's some
reason you can't make it work, then you should go for it.
But if it DOESN'T happen, it won't ruin the relationship.
Just think of it as an initial beautiful moment to begin a long, happy life...
Sort of like a great New Year's Eve...