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From: benw@pyuxn.UUCP (B Weber)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: bonding
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Date: Tue, 15-Nov-83 10:28:54 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov 15 10:28:54 1983
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An article in a recent Parent's magazine (sorry, I don't remember the
issue) reported on a study which summarized hundreds of other studies
done of bonding, looking for benefits of the experience.  They came
to one conclusion: The only major and lasting impact of bonding
is extreme guilt on the part of parents that don't "bond".

Being able to "bond" (god, I hate that phrase...sounds like
psychobabble) is certainly nice, but there is plenty of time
to know and love your child.  Unfortunately, recent books and
other media make the new parenst feel like they are remiss
in their duties if they don't bond (or do Leboyer (sp?), or
a host of other "psychologically beneficial" things).

As a new parent myself, I was appalled at the amount of
pseudoscience and outright quackery associated with current
pregnancy/childbirth/childraising literature.  Amazing that
we were all able to be born and grow up ourselves!!

						Ben Weber
						ATTWECO @ BTL, Piscataway
						pyuxn!benw