Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site gatech.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!security!genrad!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhuxl!cbosgd!ihnp4!clyde!akgua!emory!gatech!owens From: owens@gatech.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Judy McMullan's forthrightness Message-ID: <1850@gatech.UUCP> Date: Thu, 3-Nov-83 14:21:58 EST Article-I.D.: gatech.1850 Posted: Thu Nov 3 14:21:58 1983 Date-Received: Sun, 6-Nov-83 21:28:40 EST References: <1077@ittvax.UUCP> Organization: Georgia Tech School of ICS, Atlanta Lines: 30 ********************************************************************* I've been thinking quite a bit about the conditions under which relationships are formed, and have been quite discouraged thereby. There are VERY few women with Judy's forthrightness, and I can't really recall a time when I formed a relationship without the lady dropping VERY big hints in my path. Not that I wasn't shy, but it seems to me that going through 20 attempts to get a date and getting 1 acceptance out of the 20 is a bit extreme. My assertion is this: In a civilized society, women have more power over gentlemen than they realize, yap quite a bit about not finding quality relationships, and then when they turn a gentleman down, wonder why the guy isn't more agressive, when really he's being polite and not pushy. Dad blasted, it seems like a catch-22 to me too. I'm studying about CDs and scripts now, and am wondering if I'm missing some essential script. At least, the scripts that seem to work for others involve behavior that I have too much self-respect to emulate. And besides, I've lost all incentive to even try. Let's face it, whether a lady accepts an invitation or not, she gets the satisfaction of thinking that she's popular, but the guy does not get any comfort or satisfaction if he's turned down. I'm not dumb. I just don't see any point in getting turned down and feeling bad about it when refusing to stroke a woman's ego in that manner spares my feelings. Gerald owens at Ga. Tech. p.s. flamers who want me to forget the above and keep trying because that's the way the system is, can submit their messages, plus themselves, to file 13. I'm TIRED. Damn tired.