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From: luchs@ihldt.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Finances in a marriage (on net.singles?)
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Date: Wed, 9-Nov-83 19:54:05 EST
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An interesting question was posed to me (via mail) that might make a good
discussion for net.singles:

	When you get married, why will you mix your finances with your spouse's?
	No offense intended, just curious...

How can that be avoided?  I intend to have children.  What do you do--split
the cost of braces 50-50??  I didn't mean to say that I wouldn't have a
separate bank account, credit cards, real estate, etc. (I already have all
that and wouldn't bother to change it.)  But what's the difference?  It may
appear to be going into a different pocket, but it's really all the same.

My sister (yes, her again) and her second husband kept their finances separate,
(they didn't have any children.)  They each paid for half the food, mortgage,
etc.  If one of them wanted to buy something for the house, they bought it.
When they split up, they each took whatever they had purchased.  Isn't the idea
of marriage to "join together"?  I think that the two people should work, plan,
budget, and spend together.  I suspect that my sister and her husband guarded
their own funds because somewhere in the back of their minds they felt the
relationship wouldn't last.  I'm optimistic that mine would.

-Sarah