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From: stanwyck@ihuxr.UUCP (Don Stanwyck)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Finances in a marriage (on net.singles?)
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Date: Thu, 10-Nov-83 12:21:40 EST
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Posted: Thu Nov 10 12:21:40 1983
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"it is better for each person's selfrespect, as no-one has to ask the
other before they can buy something."

(close enough)

AAAAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!  

My wife and I long ago realized that our combined incomes were insufficient
for our desires.  (they do meet our needs).  We also are still paying on a 
lot of school loans, so our budget is very tight.

We found that for our purposes, the following scheme works best:
	1.  Pool all income.
	2.  First buy for needs, and pay bills.
	3.  Before using credit card or spending over $x, consult.
	4.  On any purchase over $y, even if both agree, sleep on it.
	    (Never buy in the heat of the moment.  If it is worth it,
	     we can go back and get it tomorrow.  Surprisingly, we have
	     found that a lot of things we thought we wanted were not
	     worth the 2 blocks out of the way to get the next day.)

We find that we most respect each other, and ourselves, when we both
agree to consult together before making discretionary purchases.  It
also has made our marriage better, and opened the communications channels.
-- 
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