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From: sph@wbux5.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Re: A parallel discussion: net.abby - (nf)
Message-ID: <143@wbux5.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 14-Nov-83 16:12:31 EST
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Posted: Mon Nov 14 16:12:31 1983
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About the quote "If you love something, set it free.
                 If it comes back to you, it is yours.
		 If not, it was never meant to be."
(or something like that):
How would you feel if your lover/spouse/whatever decides
they want to see if there is anyone better out there; then
doesn't find anyone and comes back to you?  Would you feel
safe and secure knowing he/she wasn't content with you the
first time?  Would you take him/her back after it was done to
you a second time?  Sometimes, if it didn't work out the first
time, it just wasn't meant to be...did that ever occur to you?
Yes, I would rather have my friend happy with someone else than
unhappy with me, but I also realize that I cannot wait around
to see if he would come back to me.  In the heat of the moment
(for lack of a better phrase), your loss is always worse than
if you look back on it after 6 months or so.  (And you can flame
all you want at that last thought...I have been through it before
and found that to be true...oh, sure, I still look back and sigh,
but it's nowhere near the heartache at the time of the breakup).
All I really wanted to point out was that you should reflect on
the relationship and try to understand what really went wrong,
and to try to carry on with that knowledge rather than moon
around waiting for something that probably won't work the
second time either.

Laurie
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