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From: ciaraldi@rochester.UUCP (Mike Ciaraldi)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Love and freedom
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Date: Wed, 16-Nov-83 20:55:49 EST
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Posted: Wed Nov 16 20:55:49 1983
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From: Mike Ciaraldi  <ciaraldi>
Someone said (paraphrased) in this newsgroup:
"If you love someone you don't try to make them change
to conform to what you want".

Where do you draw the line on this?
Suppose the person you love has characteristics that
threaten the relationship? (extreme examples--is very
violent, not trustworthy, etc.). How far should
you go in trying to get them to change?

Supoose the person you love is 100 pounds overweight,
drinks too much, smokes, and doesn't take his blood-pressure
medication? Should you nag him about this?

How many times have you been annoyed by people you
love "doing something for your own good"?

So......
the questions are?
How much should you try to change someone you care about?
What techniques are ethically OK? e.g. persuasion,
   bribery, blackmail?


Mike Ciaraldi
ciaraldi@rochester